So I was speaking to a girlfriend from the past.......
( can't make the non-PC mistake of saying old-girlfriend.....
Holy Jumpin' Jeez.....is it scary out there, or what.... ?!!!!!! )
anyway we had a pretty good talk...about Men & Women, Life & love...
Now the topic flowed from facts to emotion..and the problems that result from that..
and at some point I said that one of the main "bumps" is that the common language between two people is
sometimes the very thing that does them in..
that is to say...
people tend to think they are speaking about the same thing when the reality is that they aren't at all.
One person says I want to be loved, and the other says they have so much love to share....
sounds like a real love-match....( better call in Chuck Woolery from the "love Connection" )
and yet it's 'fuzzy" what love means to each of them..
how they were inculcated by their parents, where their Religious beliefs lead them, how they interact with friends,
what their goals & dreams for their life are..
the whole ball of wax affects the definition..
and of course can derail what would seem like a good match.
Now the entire "Mars & Venus" thing has become a Cultural Cliché and that's not really what I'm speaking about..
it's more basic than that..
it's that our lives define the meaning to our words..
and we are all VERY Different People.
now that sounds SO Simple...sure it does.........
and thru sometimes "fuzzy" assumptions..
we create relationships that are built of balsa wood instead of steel.....
now for myself......
I don't want anything from someone else that they don't want to share..
I believe sharing is a bridge created by an honest exchange of equals..
and that equals share equally.