MichaelBair

So I was speaking to a girlfriend from the past.......
( can't make the non-PC mistake of saying old-girlfriend.....
Holy Jumpin' Jeez.....is it scary out there, or what.... ?!!!!!! )
anyway we had a pretty good talk...about Men & Women, Life & love...
you know.....stuff.

Now the topic flowed from facts to emotion..and the problems that result from that..
and at some point I said that one of the main "bumps" is that the common language between two people is
sometimes the very thing that does them in..
that is to say...
people tend to think they are speaking about the same thing when the reality is that they aren't at all.

One person says I want to be loved, and the other says they have so much love to share....

sounds like a real love-match....( better call in Chuck Woolery from the "love Connection" )
and yet it's 'fuzzy" what love means to each of them..

how they were inculcated by their parents, where their Religious beliefs lead them, how they interact with friends,
what their goals & dreams for their life are..
the whole ball of wax affects the definition..
and of course can derail what would seem like a good match.

Now the entire "Mars & Venus" thing has become a Cultural Cliché and that's not really what I'm speaking about..
it's more basic than that..

it's that our lives define the meaning to our words..

and we are all VERY Different People.

now that sounds SO Simple...sure it does.........
and thru sometimes "fuzzy" assumptions..
we create relationships that are built of balsa wood instead of steel.....

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now for myself......

I don't want anything from someone else that they don't want to share..

I believe sharing is a bridge created by an honest exchange of equals..
and that equals share equally.

"WE'RE ALL MARRIED TO THE SAME BRIDE"

This is a paraphrased line from a Spirit song..
from the album "the Twelve Dreams of Dr. Sardonicus"..
one of my fravorites.

So anyway the reason I bring it up is that I was speaking to a fellow artist,
and used the line on him..
now the point that was being made was that we both are artists..
and that we should be able to relate to one another..
that those long pauses that drive most people crazy,
are just SOP..
that the way inwhich we see the world is different..

that our passion is a focused element to our lives..

when you're in "the club"...or as I like to say..
"on the other side of the table"..
that you're abit of a selfish creature at heart..
nothing pious in it..
it just is what it is.


now visual artists aren't as bad as musicians,
but that's just trying to qualifying the basic nature.

But the flip-side isn't that fun..I've met so many people without direction..
without a life's passion..
and sadly they seek the energy in others,or they dabble..
it reminds me of an old saying...

"you can't share what you don't have".

So here's the thing..
one of my friends teaches at FIT and asked if I'd come into class for a talk with the students..

now it went well..
surprisingly I do know how to speak to groups of people..
one of my dirty secrets is that I do the same kind of talks with elementary school kids..
nothing fancy..
just show them basic stuff..
things to make them feel good about their own drawings.
like how to turn a number into a face..or person..
they can all draw numbers..so they have no fear of trying..

although it helps to "trick" them into just writing down their favorite numbers 1st...and then get them started..

Most artists are just looking for a kind word..
a positive reinforcement..
a positive affirmation..
Drawing is a very personal thing and a kind word goes a long way to reassure an ego.

most of what I have to say..

I try and put down on the copy to the art & photos posted..
or in the response to a comment or question..

as most of you who have read any of that copy know..

I'm fairly serious on the outside..
and pretty silly if you get to know me..

it's nice to have different gears..

that's about it..

please do check out some of the friends and artists
I''ve posted links for..
their art is fantastic..
and well worth a look & comment or two.